Some people are incontinent and some people are not. Good that you are prepared, but maybe you will be one of the lucky ones. Look for ointment with lidocaine, didn't need to use it much but the few times I did it was great for helping with discomfort. I ditched the pain meds from the surgeon and took Advil once per day, it was all I needed. Used a grabber (tool for picking things up off the floor) for a couple of weeks. Had several pairs of scrub bottoms and lounge ware that I rotated through, Sketchers slip-in shoes came in handy. I stocked up on comfort foods, diet be damned, whatever works for you (for me it was cheese, crackers, lunchmeat, applesauce, soups, herbal tea) anything that I could snack on throughout the day. The surgery was nothing really, not much pain at all, very glad to get rid of catheter.

At three months I was undetectable, going for my 6-month PSA right this minute.

Hoping this helps some, best wishes!