Generally, the closer they are to you, the more they genuinely want to know.

I just came from a family gathering yesterday, filled with people I’m very close to, acquaintances, and family I don’t even know. Some know I have PCa and are familiar with my specifics (mainly, my siblings and their partners), some know I have PCa, but that’s about it, and some have no idea.

The first group, they sincerely want to know, and ask actual questions about my incontinence, my upcoming appointments, and all that.

The second group, it’s more like asking about the weather:

“How’re you doin’? Really?”
“Not bad, I’m makin’ it. I’m gettin’ there. Ever’ day is better’un the last un .”
“That’s good. Good for you! Oh, there’s Becky, I gotta go ask how her mama is doin’ since she fell. It was good gettin’ caught up!”

The third group doesn’t know, so they don’t care one way or the other.