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Dealing with a Relationship that has Become Toxic
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: May 6, 2024 | Replies (51)Comment receiving replies
@ashlynnmae
He didn't. I heard everything. He just threw me under the bus and said "I was going through a lot" and that it thought I was pregnant and was panicked. He didn't share why, it was because he finished in me when I said no. He didn't mean to so I don't totally blame him.
He didn't say he wouldn't leave my room
He didn't explain the shopping thing.
Nothing like that.
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@ehdog
He left out a lot of important parts, like not respecting your no, not leaving when you asked, and not explaining what actually led up to your reaction. So yeah, his friends are reacting to an incomplete version of events, and of course that’s going to make it look like you’re the problem when they don’t have the full context.
And even if he didn’t mean to finish inside you, that’s still a serious consent issue that needed to be taken seriously and acknowledged properly.
With everything you’ve described, it makes sense that you’ve react strongly at times. That doesn’t make you abusive. I don’t like using that word here, but if anything, he is abusive. It’s a good thing he’s trying to change.
As for his friends, no, they don’t have enough context to fairly judge what happened.