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How can I deal with undiagnosed, unrecognized, likely dementia?
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Jun 28 1:56pm | Replies (53)Comment receiving replies
Such a tough situation to be in, especially for one with the screen name of sunnygardens.
From what you've posted, it appears to be your intention to find help for your friend, support/caregivers, etc., then go the rest of the way on your own. If that is the case I'd suggest you review your living arrangements that you have with your friend. You may need to seek legal advice. Are you living in a state, or country, that recognizes common law marriage, or do you have any written agreement, such as a cohabitation agreement. How about a lease agreement, have you both signed such a document, or any other financial documents.
Not to make you situation seem any worse, but it may profit you to be prepared if you do decide to leave, after securing the basic support for your friend. Because if it does turn out that he is suffering from. or is in the early stages of Alzheimer's disease, or some other dementia - that would be possibly a very long journey, and believe me, it is not fun. Please, prior to making any decision - seek legal advice. Stay safe and be strong, you will get to see that sunny garden again.
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@fred1 a thanks for the reminder, Fred. I’ve cared for Alzheimer and demented clients, and seen the terrible destruction, and toll on family and friendships.
We aren’t in a common law relationship but we do own the property together. It’s a somewhat remote rural location so getting any sort of help isn’t easy. I was able to have a realtor friend give us an evaluation.
I certainly don’t want to abandon him but I certainly do not want to be his live-in caregiver. I have two aging parents to assist when the time comes, who live in the other side of the country. I’ve already chosen to leave a job and home to relocate out there when my dad (now passed on) and my stepdad were both very sick.
Perhaps it would be a good idea to ask about selling if he is demented. As far as I know, his Power of Attorney would make his decisions but I don’t want to be living with him by that point.
I won’t forget your reminder though.
And thanks for the cheery remark. It was the name of my own little gardening company years ago. 🌻