I put my husband of 43 years into memory care when his brain cancer and cognitive decline meant that it was no longer safe for him to be at home. As with your husband, he was wandering and had no sense of home whatsoever anymore. He was also up all night every night, which meant that my sleep was abysmal. His self-care became a zero, even with my assistance or insistence.

I visited the memory care facilities in my area, checked ratings, talked with friends who had gone through similar things in recent years, and finally also talk to a consultant before making my selection. I was terribly afraid that my husband would have a lot of difficulty in the adjustment, but it was smooth. The facility understood how to do the intake in a way that made him feel comfortable. He liked all the attention that he got from different people, including the ladies in the unit. I’m not sure it’s fair to say that he was happy there, but he was definitely well cared for and safe. I saw him every day, and he always knew me. Maybe not my name, but my face. It was a bittersweet time. they kept him clean Which was something I was no longer able to do because he would not cooperate with me. It took two attendants to get him cleaned up, but they knew what they were doing and were kind.

The cost in SC was 8500/ month, all private pay.

Good luck