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@santosha
I don't have much to add since I remember so little of that time.
My friends were instrumental in my acceptance of having epilepsy. They never cared that I had seizures or would make a scene. They always stood by me and protected me. They always included me. Also my parents supported me so if all those people supported me and didn't care if I had seizures why should it make any difference to me. I was always included, just like before I had epilepsy. I owe my friends and parents a great debt. I would have been a different person if not for them. I believe because of their inclusion of me that I never suffered from the anxiety and depression that so many epilepsy patients do. They got me over being angry and to accept my new normal and to continue living as I had before with few exceptions. Since that time, I have continued to live my life, almost as though I didn't even have epilepsy. However, I wouldn't recommend that since I did some very foolish things and could've been more seriously hurt or possibly killed from some of them. There are definitely precautions and limitations living with epilepsy but those are doable. Driving seems to be one of the biggest obstacles that I hear about. I remember when I took the buses which were inconvenient and took a long time getting to and from where you wanted to go. My parents and friends drove me most of the time so I wasn't really impacted much by not driving. I've since gotten my drivers license and I must admit that independence is wonderful. I love my friends and family, the few that are left. My friends would even go with me on March 26 on the epilepsy walk (purple day) to help inform the public and to raise money for epilepsy research. My supporters made me realize that life can be whatever you want it to be again with a few exceptions.
(@santosha) Chris your posts were GREAT, thank you.
Take care everyone,
Jake

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@jakedduck1
Hi Jake,
Thank you so much for sharing here in this discussion!
What stands out most to me in your story is that your acceptance of epilepsy did not begin from inside you — it was reflected back to you by the people around you. Your friends and family essentially modeled acceptance for you before you could fully own it yourself. That is a remarkable gift!
My battle was inward, mostly related to the acceptance of the condition itself, because of the changes it brought to my life — especially those related to work. I felt like a door had closed and I was stuck in front of it, trying to reopen it. But thankfully, I have been able to turn that page.
A phrase that has stayed with me since I joined this group — and whenever it comes to mind, your name comes with it, Jake — is something like: you have epilepsy, but epilepsy does not have you. It has helped me so much in this process of accepting my epilepsy, Jake — thank you from the bottom of my heart!
And thank you also for your kind words about my posts, Jake — they mean a great deal to me.
Chris