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Caregiver Heroism and Unanswered Questions
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: May 26 2:32pm | Replies (29)Comment receiving replies
I can relate. My husband is still sweet during the day but has severe Sundowners and gets confused, argumentative and accusatory in the evening. Everyone says I need to put him in Memory Care but I know he will either be terribly hurt or angry, so I keep putting it off. Blessings to you and your loved one.
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@pierwell When others tell you that you lease listen to your inner voice when "...Everyone says I need to put him in Memory Care...", as you know best how your marriage works.
But please also keep an open mind as change sometimes rapid and catastrophic, is a constant in memory loss. To that end, it is a good idea to have visited several facilities and found one or more that are acceptable for you.
Are you still able to get a good night's sleep, or must you be "on guard" 24/7 due to night wandering and potential dangers? That is the point at which, for his safety and yours, you might need to consider either Memory Care or an overnight helper.
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Sundowning can be frightening to the patient as well as the care partner. After several anger and uncontrollable episodes, and much to my reluctance, we have started my husband on half of a low dose sedative. The medication has helped him to be calm and less restless during Sundowning. Perhaps discuss this option with your Dr. since my husband is now in palliative care with our PCP. God bless you both.