@rollingf and all... Well, you are an interesting fellow. Congratulations on your wonderful life experiences and outlook on life and death. Iceland, New Zealand are 2 parts of the world I never met in person, but surely would have loved. I have a Scot heritage, the Monroe Clan, and love that beautiful country. And the people! I lived in Scotland, England when I was 1 year old for about 2 years. Learned to speak with a strong Scottish accent and still revert to the English/Scot sounds if around someone with the accent. Natural. Can not control it at all.. I have my tiny little kilt and cap I wore to school... Our family went by freighter after WWII to England for my father to get his PhD at Edinburough. Apparently, quite a time to be visiting. Terrible shortages, rationing sugar, coal, and so much more... Life was very difficult for the UK and my parents as well. But, I learned to talk there, obviously enjoyed my time as a toddler.

My father and I planned to visit but life here got in the way. So, I should have beamed up Scotty, visited my heritage.

Yes. Win-Win is the prime choice. I am finding through the years we have some control in the choices, but surely it is limited. Our choice is how we handle, accept, move forward with the status of our lives... as I perceive things. I find much else is out of my reach. But!!!! With a bunch of determination, pure grit, focus, acceptance and guts, I am somewhat successful with leaning in the win-win column in the way I deal with what's given. Think that's the best available to me at this time...

Blessings, Elizabeth