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Sex After Surgery: What can I expect?

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@retireditguy How did it come back? Was it gradual and steady or was there a sudden improvement?

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@topf -- Short answer: generally very slow with small but distinct improvements every couple of months. Long answer: Recovery for me fell into 2 categories; physical firmness/stamina/sensitivity and the ability to climax. First the physical firmness/stamina/sensitivity recovery was a step function; I'd be at some level, make very slow gains for a month or two, then make a distinct (although usually small) improvement jump. Not necessarily a large jump, but clearly better. I don't really know what was happening in my body, but it seemed like the nerves went through 2 phases; waking up and then improving function. This definitely tracked to improvements in firmness, stamina, and sensitivity. The last noticable jump occurred at about 15 months. I woke up one morning with an erection that actually felt like presurgery level. Over the following 2 weeks I started regularly achieving that same level of firmness when having sex. That 15 month process was gradual with lots of days when I wondered if I was really making progress on not. I stuck with the pills, but if progress had stalled for too long my next step was going to be the shots. The climax situation was different for me. I climaxed rather early in my recovery and it was quite intense. Then I went through periods of better or worst climax experiences (or none at all). I believe that was more due to what I spoke about regarding "getting my head in the game" (which also impacted my physical response as well). As I worked on more cuddling/romance/foreplay and generally the emotional side of the equation, the climaxes became better and more consistent for me. Improvements in the physical recovery helped here too, as the stimulation became more consistent and frankly physical improvements really helped reduce the anxiety, which also helped generate an environment condusive to a climax. This is my honest story of how my recovery proceeded as I remember and observed it, with my observations/guesses of what contributed to it. But maybe reality was something else and I'm just kidding myself, but this is how it seemed to progress for me. Best wishes.