@beaquilter You already know my history — no chemo, but months in a hospital bed and wheelchair.

I hope it reassures your husband that I started my cancer adventure at almost the same age as he did (56 in my case), and after 4 1/2 years of continual ADT + Apalutamide, as well as a high dose of radiation to my prostate and a lower dose to my spine, I'm not only living a mostly normal life, but actually managed to learn to walk again, building up different muscles to compensate for the ones that don't get a proper nerve signal any more because of spinal damage.

At 61 now, I can cycle, and I press and lift *almost* as much weight as I could in my early 50s, while I was helpless in a hospital bed, unable even to sit up in my mid 50s. I'm also fully continent, in case that matters.

So radiation and long-term ADT don't have to mean a decline. You can actually get stronger, as long as you're patient and don't push. The cardiologist even cleared me for snow shoveling!

Also, I've survived to meet my first grandchild. That alone made all the struggles worth it.

Your husband is *not* old; he's just a young-ish guy living with cancer. It's different. Don't let him get away with pretending to be decrepit. 😉