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@ocdogmom
We have decided to go home early. We’ll take the train to Lourdes for a couple of days, then back to Paris for one night. This has turned into an extremely expensive vacation. No more…. If we can’t drive there, we don’t go. I’m not a fan if traveling, so this is not such a bad option. I hated going for business.
Just a quick rundown of last night… we talked (argued) until 5am. I fell asleep until 8am… when Isaac fingered me in the back and insisted we get ready to meet his sister… who is on her way home to Paris today. No plans to meet up until next week. He insists that I slept through the night while he lay awake and that is somehow my fault.
This is something very new. He’s angry with me sometimes, especially this morning. In a movement of anger he told me that he loved me (past tense). When I asked “no more?” He stated “how can I?” He is back to himself somewhat with no memory of last night or the comment this morning. We seriously need to get back to our routine… for me more than him….
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@cyds
I am so sorry that you are experiencing these changes in your husband's behavior. It is heartbreaking to see him change right in front of your eyes and it's hard to remember in the moment that it is the disease that is causing him to be angry and blame you for what he thinks is the problem. His brain is failing to allow him to comprehend reality and remember what has been said. Getting back to your familiar surroundings will help both of you even if he takes a few days to adjust, it will be familiar to him. This is really a challenge for us spouses/caregivers. It's like you planned to go on a trip to a beautiful place like Italy but got off the plane and you were in Sweden. Not what you had imagined nor were prepared for. So what you need is a map/guide of this new place to help you navigate this unknown land. I urge you to learn as much as you can about dementia so that you will be informed about what is likely to happen in the future and most importantly in my opinion, how to deal with your feelings and take care of yourself. Good luck!
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@cyds moment not movement