@shema It will be a very tough Journey for both you and your Husband. My husband had surgery to remove the Body and the Tail of the Pancreas , the Spleen and 20 Lymph Nodes.
The Cancer was in 14 of the Lymph Nodes. It was also discovered in his lungs. He had a rough recovery from the Surgery but finally started to feel better after 6 months. We had a good year where we could go out to dinner with Friends and enjoy our Sons and their families.
He never really gained his strength back and the Oncologist felt that he was too weak to undergo Chemo and I agreed. I honestly felt that was why we were able to enjoy that year together.
Unfortunately, about 2 months ago, he started to lose his appetite and lost 17 lbs in 3 weeks.
Things have slowly gone down hill since then. He has absolutely no appetite, barely eating or drinking and sleeps a good part of the day. We have been married for 51 years and this is the hardest thing we have ever been through. You always have ups and downs in a marriage but they were always fixable. This we cannot fix . I have always been a very strong person but I have to admit that I am not feeling very strong now.
We are with Hospice now and they are all the most wonderful people and certainly helping to make things easier and they are there to talk to when I need them .
I hope that your Journey goes well for you and your Husband. Please just be there for him when he needs you. Enjoy being with Friends and Family . Take Trips if you can and go places you always wanted to see. Love will get you through this !