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The First Time.... Mom did not recognize me
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 4 hours ago | Replies (4)Comment receiving replies
@pml Thank you so much. Yes, I agree about part of Mom knew I was there. It might have been hiding below the surface but it's there. Love is through good and tough, when a person can laugh back with you or not say a word. I will go back tomorrow and hope to see that smile of recognition. Whether I do or not, whether I'm sad or grief-filled, my love never diminishes.
Just wish I could do more. I like to fix things, solve problems, make everything better. Perhaps love is most powerfully expressed when it's not wrapped in doing but in being... being present. Just being. Sorry, I tend to ramble. Thanks for responding. It helps to be heard.
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@tracidw I love your thought… “Perhaps love is most powerfully expressed when it's not wrapped in doing but in being... being present. Just being.” Like you I tend to be a fixer…not being able to “fix” my husband’s Alz has been hard. I have done so much reading, searching the internet, trying healthy food and products…maybe I just need to focus on being present. I recently started reading the book “Contented Dementia,” perhaps it will help me in this journey to be more helpful to my husband. Thank you for sharing.
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@tracidw I'm glad I could help a little. You are doing the right thing by your mom. Even though she isn't saying it, she probably realizes something is wrong with her and she can't change it. That's very frightening for a person. It's good that you are there for her and go visit her often. She needs to know there is someone who cares for her and is with her. I think she realizes it's you but for whatever reason she can't respond. You said you liked to fix things. By being there you are fixing things in a very good way. Your mom's lucky to have you. If you need to talk I am here. I'll continue to pray for both you and your mom.
PML