@2me

Same here...my husband has mild cognitive impairment and is due for his next MRI - the first was clear- next month. At my recent visit to my superb hematologist a few weeks ago I mentioned the diagnosis and she jumped right in - have you done your homework? Her parents aren't as old as we are, but both of them have developed dementia in the last year. She said it tends to be either fast or slow; her parents display both. She moved them into an apt near her and had to scramble for home care. She found a terrific agency - it's expensive but great, she said. So I'm doing that. My husband is very resistant to anything to do with all this, very anxious about it . So I dragged him off to a Death Cafe last week and actually he liked that. I did it mainly because there's a great dementia care foundation in that space and I wanted him to get familiar with it. But in the Death Cafe there were people younger than our daughter, in their 50s. Also there were two middle aged people from a nearby home care agency I hadn't heard about, so that's to be checked out too, and he would be familiar with those people. Lots of great resources came up. I'm lucky that my husband still HAS his mind, he's the same person plus the anxiety and still insisting on doing his chores, which involve dishwashing and putting away in crazy places. Staying in the house is really crucial for him. It works as long as there's two people, not so much for just one. There are Death Cafes everywhere and I really recommend them. Plus I need to know so much so fast, and it's hard to find a reliable place to learn where you can also talk about your feelings.