@myboo2u After being told that I had prostate cancer - which in hindsight he could’ve done a bit more eloquently - my first comments to my urologist were, “I don’t know anything about prostate cancer so, I’ve got a zillion questions to ask before you cut anything out of me, or bombard me with radiation, or inject toxic chemicals into me……” From that point on, it was about self-advocacy and shared decision-making.

If you (he) can’t talk with the doctor/surgeon, are you sure he’s the right one for the job? You can be sure that after the procedure, you’ll have even more (serious/deeper) questions to ask than you have now. What will you do then?