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My husband cannot quit sorting through and moving his personal things.
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labrown..My husband does similar things. He often thinks that he is not in the right house, so he starts moving things. A couple days ago he was in our bedroom and I didn't realize it, but he had been moving things to the car in the garage. He had been very angry because he wanted to go home even though he was already home. Since he was so agitated I waited until the next day to see what he had put in the car. Following is a list of what I found in the car:
Hand carved figurine that his dad had made, an electronic helicopter toy, hats, gloves, camper coffee pot, paper shredder, shirts, jackets, jewelry, iglo, kaleidoscope, and his jewelry box.
I feel so heartbroken that my husband of 58 years is so confused. Often our home that we have lived in for over 30 years does not look at all familiar to him so it makes since that he would want to go someplace familiar.
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Just wondering if going along with his sense that he is not home might work
For a couple of years, when we called my brother in law, he would tell us, for example:
- They were currently on vacation in another state and it was amazing, but their hotel rooms looked exactly like their house...
- They had moved to another city and the cool thing was that the new place was exactly like their old house and so all the furniture worked there...
You get the idea.
I'm wondering if you could tell your husband that you two just remodeled the house, but that all your things are still there (showing him a few that are treasured). Just a thought.
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@katrina123 Isn’t it strange at the things they consider to be valuable, that they want to take when they leave? Your husband, like mine, seems to only be concerned with his things not yours and that’s a good thing. The collection they put together and are concerned about, always seems to be such a strange assortment, not really anything that would be helpful to them in any way, but evidently they are important items to them. After church today I found my husband in his closet, looking at sandwich baggies of nuts and bolts and screws and hinges…just things of that nature that he has collected. He let me know that those were his. I assured him I would not mess with them. 😊
My husband has loaded up his truck in the past so now I keep our vehicle doors locked, and I’m the only one with access to the keys. You might want to do the same. I have to admit there’s never a dull moment around the house!