Gosh that 'support group' session muddied the waters for you . Sorry to hear of that! You likely did a ton of research and we're very confident with your given situation the operation fit rather well. From my research, depending on your particular situation, no one modality is by far better than another modality. I had the operation and I don't think I would change anything about that. I was 57 so I recovered rather quickly. However, the recovery takes a month or two. May I make a suggestion? There is a group called the reluctant brotherhood. They have meetings based on your Prostate situation. They are also starting a YouTube channel and a Spotify podcast. They have people from all over the United States and Canada and sometimes even Europeans drop in. You get a full menu of speakers and different attitudes on procedures, etc. Here is their web page https://thereluctantbrotherhood.org . I am more than sure you are on the right track , for yourself . We are here to support you ! Let us know how things workout Sir !