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"not suffer the barbaric side effects of surgery"

This kind of alarmist nonsense is really a disservice to reality in general & medicine in particular, but it sells because of the general (& unjustified) fear of surgery in much of the population.

I had robotic-assisted laparoscopic radical prostatectomy five years ago, & it was a "nothing burger". I've had routine dentist cleaning visits that were worse. I woke up with five tiny (about the size of a dime) bandages across my beltline, & NO PAIN. I walked that night in the hospital. In the morning they removed a couple tubes and told me to get dressed & go home.

I did my usual 1.5 mile walk the next day & drove the day after that. Never a hint of any pain.

Now, here's the real kicker: THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE HERE WHO HAD THE SAME EXPERIENCE WITH SURGERY!

I did have carry (under my clothes) a catheter to a urine drain bag for week. That was a minor inconvenience, but it was removed in an office visit a week later (also no pain).

I was 75 at the time, so my surgeon suggested radiation. I preferred the precision of the knife & selected the surgery anyway.

I wasn't disappointed. No incontinence, then or now. I can always add radiation later (but didn't), but you can't do the reverse.

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Thanks so much for that! That's what I was hoping to get out of that support group meeting 🙂

Super thrilled your experience was so smooth. I'm fully prepared to deal with a much higher level of suckitude post surgery because it sounds so variable...but can only hope it goes as well as yours.

They did not literally say "barbaric," but that was clearly the intent by leading with why people should not want RP because of the horrible side effects of longer-term incontinence and severe ED and how Focal is the new way and so much better (if you qualify for that treatment).