@casey1959 Same! I have learned so much about something I had very little understanding of. Just know you are not alone and hope to lighten in some small way what you are both experiencing. The first week for my Husband post Whipple was the most scary for me. Even as a nurse this was so different than any thing expected. He also had BP, heart rate issues, so much drainage, swelling and ended up with a pulmonary embolism. Somehow he made it through. I get the feeling of fear and the gravity of all that is happening and how little control we have in the circumstances we’re in. Despite everything you both will get through this and back home recovering before you realize, one step at a time. Grateful for this forum that helps us all connect.