@briang1958 asked ❝Who would ever want a "man" (LOL) like me.❞

I'd like to humbly suggest reaching out to a professional to see if you are experiencing clinical depression, because depression is a liar: it alters your brain chemistry to make good things seem bad and bad things seem even worse. Unfortunately, depression not an uncommon comorbidity after a diagnosis of a life-changing illness. 😢

Even a Don Juan probably spent less than 1% of his waking hours having penetrative sex; for the rest of us, it would be more like 0.1% or 0.01%. You can still be *at least* 99% of the same husband you were before prostate cancer.

So it's not necessary to be so down on yourself. Find the good parts that are still there, and discover something new to fill in the rest. You're still worth loving, and still able to share love.

You've got this! The man you want to be is still in there, waiting to be let out. A clinical psychologist or psychiatrist would just be a coach to help you find him. ❤️

@briang1958
I asked about this during a talk a specialist in ED gave at the Mayo Clinic monthly meeting, a few months ago?.

I asked if somebody had gone many years without an erection would putting in an implant work. He said it probably would, but it would be necessary to get a penis pump to get an erection again before having the implant done. That would get the tissue ready for expansion with the implant.

The implants work really well to get a quick erection that you can Reduce when you want. They are very popular with the people that have had them implanted. They are covered by insurance.

You might have another option with this.

@briang1958 I agree with the northoftheborder gentleman's comments. As long as we are alive life is not over. There are other ways to be intimate....we just have to make some adjustments and figure them out.
We need to be so thankful for the people in these forums and the advice and support they have for others. Good communication between spouses can not be overstated. Intimacy now kind of has to be redefined in a sense because it's not like it's always been so it can be weirder than anything. I'm in the process of figuring it out....researching....waiting patiently for things to get better.
I agree, intimacy is super important to couples even though it may be a small of each week or so. It's devastating to just have what we have been used to be removed from the relationship and as a man feel worthless when things don't work.
Research more options and possible surgeries as others have mentioned. There are ways to bring success back my friend! Hang in there and God bless you!