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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 3 days ago | Replies (11)
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Ig2688,
It would be wise to get a durable Power of Attorney while your husband can still sign. It's best if you sign one for him and he signs one for you, otherwise he might think you are trying to get permission to sell his things. I never think it wise to get children involved or to give them POA.
The boat and the RV while probably costing money is maintenance or storage may be something he's earned in his lifetime of working. Clearly they are valuable to him if to no one else. He may be holding on to them as a vestige of health or pride. It would be better if you could change course and just be on his side. The time will come. unfortunately.
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@gently You are so right about the boat and his things being a vestige of health and pride. We have a 41 foot boat - that I now call the money anchor - that is just sitting there, birds on it, continued washings, etc., continued paying for it, while my husband refuses to let it go. I have just decided it's not worth the fight and I will have to deal with it, when he no longer knows it's there. It's all so confusing, knowing what to do and when, and then being up against, anger when you try to change something that is just going to be easier for me to change down the long one. I fear by the time, I do have to let it go, it will be scrap metal. Oh well, so be it. In the grand scheme of things, I guess it's really not that important, other than it's so costly, and just sits there. We move in 8 or so months, and at that time, I'll have to deal with it, as finding someplace on water is just another expense. You're smart to say, "it would be better if you could change course and just be on his side....the time will come."
Even if it's not easier for the caregiver at that time. Best,