Dear Bluegill, I am so sorry to hear that but this PC thing effects us all in different ways and obviously can push both patients and partners to some unusual and out of character reactions.

Since your wife was supportive for so many years < 3, my guess is that "singing with other women" made her very upset indeed and perhaps she is uncomfortable to admit her girlish jealousy and is talking in broad terms (read "new activities") when she complains. As a wife, I would gently advise you to stop that particular "activity" ; ), she sees it as threat and no reasoning would work (like mentioning that you have no libido).

Try to compromise - spend more time with her doing what makes her feel good and loved and than as Peter suggested try to include her in your new activities. She might not join but she would not feel "uninvited" and excluded ; ). I am absolutely sure that she does not mind you meditating 😉 *ehem .

Yes - female brain is like that , lol.