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Spouse becoming less supportive?
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Sorry you're going through this.
One of the traps that we can fall into is that because cancer dominates our thoughts (with good reason) the subject of cancer becomes "our personality".
From the perspective of others, it seems to be all we talk about & our actions all revolve around it.
It sounds much meaner than it actually is, but maybe she's "sick of the subject".
One solution would be to not just spend more time with her, but send time not talking about cancer & related coping strategies.
I can understand her not wanting you to spend time with other women, but does she go with you?
She may be bored out of her mind, but sitting quietly at the back, watching you interact with the others on an obviously friendly basis may alleviate some of her worries.
Other than that... go have brunch with her & talk about anything but cancer coping subjects.
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Oh Peter - in our relationship I am the one who can not stop thinking and talking about cancer *sigh : ((( and I am starting to worry about being such way and lately I apologize to my husband when I catch myself starting conversation about it during dinner or nice walks. : ((( Of course he tells me that he does not mind that at all and that he is tremendously grateful for all that I do, but I can sense a shift in his mood, however subtle, when I mention cancer. I actually make sure that he spends some time without me since he does not need to hear "about new studies" every 5 seconds. : ((( BUT, he will not do any research himself or think about it at all, so I have to and it is really soooo soooo hard to find balance or solution for all of this nonsense and torture that PC brings into one's life : (((.