@rubyslippers, et al: whew, it is a relief to read your post about how difficult conversation is getting. The 50 questions seem necessary to understand what subject he is discussing and Who!
As the day runs down it is difficult to engage in ANY verbal communication successfully!
I bet you wish you could click those ruby slippers together and appear somewhere calm, comforting and quiet somedays.

However, this is our lot sister- we need to dig deep, stay as positive as humanly possible and “accept this is our reality”!
Each day I emphasize to myself that today I can see the best in actions, appreciate every kind word, manage to keep my mouth shut when frustrated and make today the best day this week! I’m not saying I am successful, but by making this my goal I find I can learn to keep my mouth shut and maybe never understand the story he just told me. I don’t have any solutions to our new roles, I’m just as confused as we can get. We do have eachother to vent to when necessary and share a situation that may help each other. Thanks for being there!