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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
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That has to be difficult! I’m earlier than that- my husband is alert enough yet to be doing crazy things like working out for two hours straight- eating only cheetoes all day ( he’s a diabetic ) and obsessively going over and over and over the checkbook ledger involving me in this unnecessary and highly stressful process. He gets super confused while looking at all the numbers- gets more and more agitated and then drags me into the mess to solve it— when it isn’t even a problem in the first place—
He wants my help- but then when I give it he gets super angry because he wants to solve it and can’t - I try and calm things down - diffuse his anger- but in the end- he hates me more than ever. He is very mean. to me - I don’t know how to cope with his sharp biting words and dismissive actions. My feelings do not matter to him one bit . I could say it’s just the disease - but he hasn’t been formally diagnosed yet — and that’s a hard position to be in. Can anybody relate?
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@rebeccagrover I am on a similar track, but closer to the beginning and not sure if its early dementia. Husband had sometimes given incomplete answers in the past leading to “50 questions” or a misunderstanding.
But now most questions and/or answers are short and he gets annoyed if I question him further, or I get frustrated and upset when the who/what/when activity is different from what he said. This didn't happen in the past to this extent. And I think he recognizes that he made a mistake, and he is feeling frustrated, but taking it out on me.
We’ve talked about the increasing arguments, but it hasn’t changed.
Unless this group has a better solution, I guess I need to limit these casual conversations on topics that matter. Make note to follow up later. And just check the details as best I can from another source if possible. I need to manage my frustration level or I’ll need a higher dose of blood pressure meds.
Any nuggets of wisdom?