@grandmajoan You are so very correct. I am also caring for a family member with IDD. If you aren’t familiar with IDD it means intellectual disability. That person is actually quite wonderful and capable but my husband also hurts this individual with words. I have told the husband to stop. Meanwhile I’ve explained to the loved one with IDD what is going on. It is understood (with reminders )to the person with IDD.

I feel I am too young for all this but also know I cannot control. It is difficult to get verbally beaten up sometimes daily and / Or hear a litany of how expensive groceries are these days. I have learned to send him to the store with “his” list. Then I go with what we actually need to purchase to have meals. He is quite limited these days as to what he will eat.

I have made time to be part of a wellness program…It is actually a study. I feel it is helping me.
Our loved one with IDD and I are eating properly. I offer it to husband but he usually won’t eat it. My loved one with IDD and I do meditations, take walks or work out on equipment at our house, eat plant based and get good sleep. I’m looking for housekeepers to replace the ones I have had who have fallen off the radar. I need them because I am loaded with medical appointments for us, laundry, cleaning, yard (1 acre) work, PAPERWORK!!!!! I am sure you relate, grandmajoan.
We have no other family that could help….or likely won’t help (younger ones). So I am doing the best I can and will continue to do what I can while he naps. *He does do things but in his own time and when he is not napping or reading or going to lunch with a random friend (I’m not complaining as it takes him off my hands and he is happy for that time).