@rashida Yes, I watched that video, with my wife! i wrote down the points, and could see where I did the right thing, by setting boundaries, and times, to suit my schedule, rather than what my brother wanted! Also, the Company that made that great video that you sent, made another one, on You Tube, that I watched, and it too, was very helpful! My wife agrees with you! Interestingly, she has told me many times that they both drag me down to much, treating me in an inferior way, like I had been treated, at home, by my parents! Thinking about what your advice is, I recall recently attempting to tell my brother how, after all these years, my knee still hurts, and I have a bowed leg problem, where my Orthopedic Doc. prescribed my using a cane, which I do use - when my Dad, in a rage, threw me down the basement steps, in my senior year of high school. It was unexpected! He had a fight with my Mom, and came down from upstairs, to the landing, where I was standing, gathering up some clothes from the dryer, on that level of their split level home! My Dad was very. strong, and I guess I was in his way, going to the garage door, on the landing! I landed on the basement cement, and my rt. knee blew up like a balloon. I was in a lot of pain. My Mom and Dad would not come and help me or take me to the hospital. I was screaming in pain! My younger sister called my married sister, who came and took me to hospital, where they did an arthroscopic procedure, and I was on crutches for a few months! I stayed at my elder sister’s home and a friend’s the rest of my senior year! i never returned home! Anyway, I’ve had a painful, ‘trick’ knee, ever since, that has given out from under me, and I’ve had some falls! So, my brother was about 10 years old at the time, when my Dad injured me. When I told him that my sore knee was contributing to some of my recent falls, he inserted ‘Oh, Perry, ( my youngest brother - 7 years old at the time), and I, sat upstairs, laughing at Dad beating you up, and you crying out in pain!! “ What a terrible thing that was, to say to me, his oldest brother! I truly need all the support I can get. Non-supportive family members, who act nonchalantly narcissistic ( sister ), or criticize ( brother ), like this, make it much harder for me to have the strength and fortitude to persevere in the aggressive manner, that I am doing right now. to improve my physical health, and overall well being! Like my wife says, I need to stick with a positive environment, not a negative one! Being with, and/or communicating with people, who lift me up, rather than keeping relationships with people who are negative toward me, bringing me down, is definitely the way to go! My wife likes your comment, and, of course, so do I, when you stated “let them drag each other down!” I keep telling myself that, and let them deal with their negativity, but it’s time for me to exit the scene, and keep only positive relationships! You have been such a great help for me, concerning my problems, with my siblings! You reached out to help me, when I needed help the most! I’m eternally grateful to you, for your wise counsel, as a friend, with this wonderful Mayo Connect forum! YOU ARE A BLESSING, and I deeply appreciate you taking your valuable time to help me!!