Does the anxiety or fear of this prognosis ever get better?

In my view, one of the best things that you can do is find an endocrinologist who is well trained in treatment of osteoporosis. In addition, someone who listens, answers all of your questions and is willing to partner with you in developing a plan of treatment.
The more you read and wade through the process of learning more about osteoporosis and different approaches to treatment the less anxious you may feel. You are not doomed. The information is overwhelming for awhile but gets better as you gain more confidence knowing that you are capable of making good choices for yourself. You are not alone. I've been on this path for at least 10 years. Make sure you give yourself plenty of breaks so that your brain has time to integrate all of the information it is getting. Remember: how do you eat an elephant? One mouthful at a time.

I felt the same way
I found BRICK HOUSE BONES on Facebook. Dr. Lisa Moore is amazing and helped me.

Yes, it does. I fractured 2.5 years ago and am now back to being in the best physical and mental condition that I've been in for years. It was a slow process but I am now confident the likelihood of my fracturing again is small. I am back to doing everything I did before my fracture and have focused on making the improvements in my lifestyle that needed to be made. I did two years of anabolic medication and worked hard on strengthening my back muscles to avoid another fracture.

I was 62 when I fractured and I am about to turn 65. Life is great!

Hang in there - life is not over!

I literally wrote this comment 15 minutes ago.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/comment/1544038/
It DOES get better. But you have to take control.

You MUST be the biggest advocate for yourself. You must speak up.

Know that you may have to switch doctors. This seems to be a recurring theme, so in these early days, talk to people. Do your research in your area as to who treats OP SPECIFICALLY. Ask how much of their practice is in osteoporosis. This matters.

In the meantime, start eating a calcium-rich diet every single day: dairy, dark greens, tofu (if you can), molasses. Read labels. Get 1,200 mg calcium per day THROUGH FOOD. I shared my list of favorites with calcium counts below, if it helps.

If you’re not lifting weights, start small, but start. In addition to building bone, it’ll do wonders for your mood and mind. I promise. Lifting weights makes you feel so powerful.

Walk. As often as you can. Listen to music or pods.

Prioritize sleep.

NO GOOGLING AFTER 6 PM. (Ok, that’s my rule for me, 😂but it’s true what @gravity3 said, and she’s AWESOME): you must give your mind a rest.

The anxiety will decrease. Be ever so loving, kind, and gentle with yourself. Buy yourself something pretty every now and then. Talk to a mental health professional if you feel you need to; it helps. I know.

We’re all going to be ok. 🌸

I swear the women on this forum just might change the way OP is treated.

@oopsiedaisy I am so happy for you, and really glad to read this.

To continued good health! 🌷

It's an overwhelming diagnosis b/c it's complex and there are so many differing opinions, as you noted. I felt paralyzed after my diagnosis and the more I learned and the more I addressed what I could, the better I felt. It's still on my mind - I'm still careful about how I move (e.g., I watch my step, avoid flexion and twisting, etc.), but otherwise, life is good and pretty much back to normal. It's an adjustment, but you will get there. Best wishes.

Like many diagnoses, the beginning is hardest, sorting through a lot of often conflicting info…some people say that it’s the meds or the fractures- quite extreme….Speaking only for my self—since OP develops slowly and mine is not too advanced, I’m taking time to sort through all this….in the meantime I’m taking a well-researched supplement, tweaking my diet a bit, and doing focused exercises and walking as much as I can…I’m considering the HRT/BHRT patches as a gentler way to go, if I can find the doc who will help with that.

Thank you for your honesty. We all feel these moments; trying to learn about the meds, find a specialist who can help, wondering how to prevent fractures, etc.

It's been almost a year since my doctor told me to consider which med I want to take. Like you, I read so much yet feel I know less all the time!

I appreciate your post!

@oopsiedaisy
Thank you for sharing your good news about living with osteoporosis. We can all use a dose of "Life is Great!"
I will definitely hang in there after reading your post!

@gravity3 I absolutely 100 percent agree