@nelms I’m still not exactly sure when I’ll have to bring him to the facility. But, when we went to a neurologist, our primary doctor suggested it, he asked questions of my husband, and it opened my eyes to the truth. Then we went back to see him again and he looked at me and said that I need to start planning things. I was sort of lost, not really sure what to do. So I met a man at the liquor store and I used to think he was crabby! But, I tried to make it a pleasant experience, I told him about my husband and he said that we should see a financial advisor, there’s one at our bank so I spoke to him and he was very helpful, he said the first thing I should do was put our savings into just my name. We got that done right away.
You have to think of yourself too!
Then I needed financial help through getting medical assistance, that took a lot of work and time for me, I’m a nervous person anyway, there’s a lot of things that are needed. I think it’s mostly so you can still pay your normal bills. House insurance and property taxes. A lot of things. They’ll send you information.
I hope that this isn’t too much, and I hope some of it helps someone else.
We have a son that lives with us, that’s helping a lot, so I went out with my sister for brunch the other day, and I had a feeling that things might not be good at home. I hate being right . He and my son had an argument and it was bad, he went outside and stewed for a bit, when he came inside he was much better. We had a very good conversation about how he’ll have to go into a memory care facility, but not yet, we cried and hugged. He went outside again and he came to terms with the idea. I think I’ll know when he needs to, I have a place I like, it’s not far from home, and it’s along the Mississippi River, he’ll like that. He and I love the outdoors so that’s going to be tough I’m sure. I’ll visit him as much as he wants, and we can walk over across the street to look out at the river. I’ll be very sad and lonely, it’s probably like a death. I hope it goes well.
He gave up being able to drive pretty easily, that helps!