@rashida
I agree. My 94 year old dad moved in with us, now entering our sixth year. Prior to that, he and mom did not have friends or socialize very much in the community where they lived, but had friendly neighbors drop by daily here and there to chat—which counted for a lot, and they had each other (and I was over there frequently during the week). Our household, once teaming with activity of young people in and out, is now very quiet as kids are adults now living away, and caregiving began while COVID was still prevalent and no vaccines (so we never re established our friendships as they were before, with people here at the house frequently).
Dad feels lonely and isolated and hasn’t found a niche/outlet—despite many offerings over the years. Tough for him to explore with health issues mounting and physical abilities declining, even with my constant support and encouragement.

Seeing all this, I think that if someone is established with strong friendships and enjoying activities in their current location, it might be worth considering planning to age and obtain care within that same community. I would tour assisted living, independent living, skilled nursing facilities and make choices for the future. I would interview area care managers to have them eventually help with attending doctors appointments, coordinating care, and checking in to make sure all care is going well. I would talk to kids/loved ones about being POA and/or healthcare POA from a distance using the care manager when/if the time comes. I would have a plan and write it all out. Of course, finances can come into play here too—so options can vary and all this may not be obtainable….But having an active life that you enjoy is definitely not to be taken for granted! Of course, everyone’s situation and health needs are different, as are their family and friend relationships. And no one wants to find themselves isolated in their home and needing help, with no one close by to support them. So for myself, I hope to plan everything out as best I can (and afford)—being realistic. Just something to consider…..