@olderandwiser we both just turned 80! Unfortunately, I had a prostatectomy in October 2026 which has put me out of commission at least for now so penetrative sex not an option I can offer. Leading up to my surgery I was counting on oral sex and her favorite toy to continue her enjoyment but recently I just can’t get her there.
I understand your desire to share great orgasms with the wife, I think of it often! It’s funny, mind was has always been reserved and conservative but every time she had an orgasm she was a screamer! It gave me great satisfaction to see her have a screaming orgasm which to me was a “gold standard” success on my part! Now that she can’t get there it really disappoints both of us!
One thing I might suggest for you is that you buy her a “Satisfyer Pro2” which is an “air pulse stimulator”.
As I said in an earlier post a woman in a “store” told me about it when I was trying to buy something a couple of years ago to enhance her orgasms. The lady raved about how effective it was so I bought one! It lived up to is recommendation after I got her past her reluctance to try it. Now she love it and asks me to use it for her. Not to be crude but it was called by the lady at the store a “clit sucker”. As all husband know the little area is a big factor in female satisfaction. It is a hand held device with a soft cup that fits over the clitoris. It both vibrates and sucks at the same time. It works well and quickly!
As I said recently even with that she has not been able to “ get there” recently but it has been great for the past two years and she has absolutely loved it! We are old couples just trying to hang on to our sex lives a long as possible so pleas don’t misinterpret this as something strange. I could send you a picture of the item in the original box if you want. Just let me know. On here or by private email if you prefer. I think they sell them on Amazon! Just let me know!