@newrochelle1131 your comment about Desecrate caught my attention! My wife and I have been sexually active all of our 59 year marriage. Up until October 21, 2025 our last love making session. We knew it would be our last at least for some time because the next morning I was scheduled for a prostatectomy! Kind of sad knowing my old penis friend was beginning retirement!
The whole prostatectomy process , while necessary to become cancer free, was a difficult situation both physically and emotionally! I am now 5 months post surgery and have improved but not recovered. It is important to maintain the romance connection in your marriage even when you cannot “close the deal”. I discovered that after some healing I became more “ Horney” than I had been in some time because I got to quit taking finestride for my prostate which inhibits your desire. So before I didn’t have a strong interest in sex but could do it, now I have a strong interest in sex but can’t do it! I discovered that you do not have to be hard nor produce semen to be able to have an orgasm! It’s different, not as intense but it’s good, and the only sexual enjoyment I can have. Now my question as related to being Discreet…. Do other husbands in this post op situation tell their wife about masturbating? I see it as something not to be ashamed of nor embarrassed about but I guess I feel like we boys did in our early days. We know everybody masturbates but we act like no one does! Kinda crazy! I know it kinda of a “taboo” topic but this article opened the can of worms and I’d like to here from other guys in this situation! Also, what should I do for my sweet wife of all these years who suddenly doesn’t have a husband who can have sex with her? Touchy subject but it’s a real situation! Any suggestions or practices that work for you I would like to hear about!