It takes time to build up the strength of your Kegel muscles. Can't stress enough to learn how to do them correctly and then do them numerous times a day. If needed, see a PT that does a lot of work in this area. We have a group of PT's near me that are also very close to a retirement community that advertise work in this area. You don't necessarily need a PT to learn how to do Kegels. Some great resources on the web. Our female fitness director at the Y taught me how to do them. She plopped down on the floor in the weight lifting area and demonstrated 3 exercises on the spot lol. We have a good relationship and felt comfortable asking her knowing she worked with women in this area.