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To move near family or stay put
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@joanland My wife and I live in central Oregon, as well, and our daughter would like us to consider moving near them in rainy Washington when the time comes. I'm in favor of it, but my wife, who grew up in central California, wants to stay in the dry climate, in some kind of senior housing. I do the yard work and most of the house work, and would prefer to live in our own place. She will probably outlive me, so I guess the decision should lean toward what works best for her. For now, we'll enjoy our home in the country.
Jim
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@jimhd
Jim: that is a dilenma - to live on the dry side (of OR) or move to the rainy side, which is where your daughter lives, of WA. I would have a hard time adjusting to the rainy side after living on the dry side for almost 50 years. Their are advantages to each location. My daughter is very happy in Olympia. I think I would have trouble with Seasonal Affective Disorder with the rain and gloom of the west side. There is also a discussion here on whether to move to be near one's children or not, that you might find helpful. Good luck to you on your decision.
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@jimhd
That’s a tough decision, Jim. I don’t know how old you are, but if and when your health starts to falter, you’ll appreciate having them close and so will they.
It sounds like you’re not being forced into that decision yet. Other things to consider are how taxing such a move would be physically and emotionally, and also the fact you’ll have to start over with all new hospitals, doctors and dentists.
Are there any compromises the two of you are able to consider?
Best of luck in finding something that suits you both.
Christine