@joanland
Dear joanland,
So sorry this happened to you. Although virtually all of my extended family started out in same town, over time, kids have moved to cities where their colleges/grad schools were located (and they stayed...now in their 50's), and my sister moved to be in same town as nephew, leaving me the only member of our family who is still in our hometown. I have some vision limitation, but am still able to drive on streets I've been traversing for 60+ years. Also, in hometown there is little traffic, compared to cities to which rest of family has moved. I also enjoy friends and neighbors I've known for decades...some for 60+ years. I often miss my family, but if I were to wrench myself away from my hometown, and then discover my daughter and her family are too busy to visit often, it would break my heart beyond repair. Hometown is more affordable, more comfortable, and certainly more convenient than East Coast cities where kids making their lives. I've assembled a crack medical team. Not the same as an attentive kid...but then, proximity doesn't always ensure attention. As I (and now you, sadly) have learned the hard way. Just writing this so you know you've got lots of company.