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Decision to let sick person go

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Thank you very much. It has been six weeks since my husband died, and I know that no matter what I chose at the time, he would still be gone now. I simply chose what was easier for him. But I am still very, very upset, and angry at myself. I keep thinking — maybe one more day together, maybe one more hour? But I also knew the reality, and that the way he went was kinder for him. It just doesn’t make it any easier for me.
I still talk to my husband every day, even though it’s only one‑way now. I have sudden bouts of crying over the smallest things, and sometimes I cry for hours. I hope it will become easier with time, but right now it isn’t. I went through our wedding anniversary alone, and his name day, and I still have his birthday ahead of me… It’s all just very, very difficult. Thank you for your kind words.

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@jo55 I’m seven months out from the death of my wife of 58 years and I can say that six weeks means you are in the raw state of grieving. The crying and difficulty with the anniversary dates are very hard. It sounds like you did a very loving thing for him by letting him go when you did. Don’t be hard on yourself for that. I found that having a grief counselor and a grief support group has been very helpful. Like you say, it’s very difficult and takes time to go through. I wish you the best.