@alic, I feel for you. It's so hard to know what to do in these cases. Doctors don't want to overtreat, and lung surgery comes with risks, including life-long nerve pain in some cases (https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/increasing-pain-over-time-after-video-assisted-thoracic-surgrey/). I know this is difficult, try to focus on the good. The biopsy wasn't clearly cancer, that's great! I've had biopsies that came back right away as cancer (before I was even awake), and I've had one nodule come back as a fungus (only after a second attempt at a second institution). Our lungs are sensitive and can overreact to irritants. I don't mean to sound like I'm dismissing your concern. The potential for cancer is scary. In some cases we need to work with our team and take their recommendations, but only after voicing our concerns. I'm assuming that you've let them know how the waiting is impacting you?
Do you have access to a second opinion at a different clinic? Sometimes, reassurance that waiting is the best plan can help.