I sympathize with your feelings a lot since I had to have physical therapy to help me with peeing. I know it's not identical to your problem, but I learned a ton about everything that goes on in that department. For one, I have hemorrhoids in my rectum that make it feel like I have to poop when there's nothing there. Also they told me that I need to drink one of those psyllium husk/metamucil drinks every day of my life. Personally, I like the Yerba Prima brand recommended by consumer lab. It is clean tasting and unflavored, but metamucil also works. I don't know how to say this delicately, but you can look at charts online to see what's healthy regarding the shape and form of what comes out. They showed me such charts many times throughout my therapy to make sure everything was okay. They taught me to use a squatty potty, which puts the colon at a more natural angle, but that can really take some getting used to. The main thing though is that you get an appointment to be diagnosed and perhaps have a colonoscopy to see if there's any reason for alarm. If they offer physical therapy, it can be a godsend! Kind regards, LL