@jjjw I don't mean to offend anyone here, but I will tell you what I discovered when I was transitioning from Peri to Permanent Menopause. There is a safe product that you can get (yes, I got it) I went to an adult store but, you can - probably online now - it's called hot KY and it comes in flavors *ahem* well.... Anyway, sex went from sandpaper to fluidity and it was fabulous. You might want to consider trying it.