@artistrose Hopefully Dr Gandara at UCD will allow recording. That would be SO helpful. In my hometown of Redding my doctors are at Valor Oncology and they said no recording as well as having that posted on the walls in their exam/treatment rooms. I took my husband to 1st 2 appts but he is older, hard of hearing, and doesn’t do well in these situations. He just sat looking disinterested and didn’t hear or recall anything. So then I took a close friend to one appt which hurt his feelings terribly and he reacted badly. So I just started going alone to everything. For the surgery consult I did take a friend again but I didn’t tell my husband. She was very helpful at helping me recall important details. I wish I could take her to UCD appt but husband wants to go & she doesn’t want to go if he goes and he sees no need for another person. I know this is about me but I can’t help trying to protect feelings of others. When I had lumpectomy I brought a friend because I thought there might be aftercare instructions to relay. My husband was to drop us at door, park the car, and then join us. We waited. He had dropped us off and gone home to watch tv. I’m handling this the best I can but it feels difficult sometimes. Your advice & support is very appreciated.