kaki068, it is difficult to get adequate pain management because of the current attitude toward the medications. I'm sorry you are having this undeserved experience. It could be helpful if your pain physician made medication available for those times when the pain gets out of control. It may be that gets out of control because you are already (slightly) undermedicated. You may even be flagged at the local ER as "drug seeking."
In response to problems with drug addictions the tide turned against pain medications. instead of making reasonable guidelines for patients with painful conditions, those patients have been left to suffer. They aren't even great medications for pain. They are just better than nothing.
You might talk about this with your pain specialist. They might be able to give you something to reserve for use in extreme times of pain. But state and federal regulations are limiting their prescribing methods.
There isn't any excuse for the horrible doctors. I'm glad your husband is there to try and make them understand.