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Kristi,
I can relate. I also have felt frustrated by having this change of plans in what should be my "golden years." (I am 59... my DH is 68.) I admire your courage to move to a new location and find some joy there.
My DH also sleeps a lot more than I do, but I have found that it is a blessing in disguise. He is pretty early in the "journey" like your DH, but far enough along to show some "shadowing" behavior. He wants to be a part of everything I am doing. So, when he is sleeping, it is peaceful and I am thankful knowing he is safe and content and I can think straight - without him looking over my shoulder or asking what I am doing.
Like your DH, mine has become kinder and more willing to talk on a deeper level. He feels bad, knowing what is to come and the toll it will likely take on me, so he seems much more loving than he has ever been throughout our marriage.
I know it is going to get much more difficult in the years to come, so at this point in the journey, I am counting my blessings.
Best wishes to you and your hubby,
Gram
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@callmegram I am glad to read that your husband is willing to talk and has become kinder. We are currently in a similar place.
BUT-Since I now have to learn the ins and outs of finances, and basically run both of our lives at this point, I find I am short of patience on days when he wants to know what I’m doing, and talks a lot…and I can’t keep a string of thoughts going in my own head, which at times, is very important! How do you manage quiet/thinking time? Best wishes. So grateful for this group!
And Kristi, welcome to this group! I was quiet when I first joined, but people here are so wonderfully supportive and helpful! Welcome!