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Caring for mom with stage 4 Triple negative Breast Cancer and dementia
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@mir123
Thank you for responding. We do have an appointment with a palliative care person on Thursday. I am Mom's only caregiver. My 15-year-old grandson also lives with me, and while he is a huge help, I don't want to rely on him too much. My brother and sister live out of state (or I should say I am the one who moved from home and then brought my parents south with me). They will fly in for a visit, but other than calls and texts, that's it.
I am in contact with my church, but have not been able to attend in person for over a year. I have asked for a Stephen Minister.
Thank you again.
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@gigiknits Glad to hear from you.Do keep in touch with us when you feel like and tell us how things are going.
Hi @gigiknits, I wanted to check in to see how you are doing.
I added your discussion to the Caregivers: Dementia support group as well https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/
I'm also tagging @mimiz12 who cared for her mother-in-law who was diagnosed with breast cancer when living with dementia.
Gigi, how did the appointment with palliative care go? How are YOU doing?
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@gigiknits
I was the sibling who stepped up to take care of my Dad when he started showing signs of dementia. He also had melanoma and congestive heart failure. He didn’t want to treat the cancer but the doctors said since it was growing fast and in his neck, it would slowly strangle him to death.
At 97, there was a domino effect of heart issues, melanoma and dementia. I asked him what he wanted to do. He said he was tired and just wanted to go home and sleep. So I put him in hospice.
It was a difficult choice but why put him through treatments that would not remove him from the pain of his other ailments?
He died within the month of being put in hospice.
Prayers and wisdom are sent your way in caring for your Mother at this time.