Hi @petel,
I am so sorry to hear about your mother! I can only imagine how upset you must be with such negligent behavior, and I want to thank you for sharing your mother's story. As patients, we consult physicians, expecting their knowledge and skill to bring some relief. Unfortunately it sounds like the lackadaisical approach of your mother's healthcare team has rightfully given you a cause of action for negligence against them.
I would like to introduce you to @cowboy1997 @jeff5500 @tdrell who've also had bad experiences, and may be able to relate to your poor experience with healthcare providers – not respecting or taking the time to listen to your complaints, acting rude, ordering unnecessary tests or misdiagnosing which has resulted in profound damage to your mother's health.
@gailb has written about healthcare problems experienced by patients, doctors, and hospitals, and I'd also like to invite our Mentors @johnbishop @windwalker @kdubois to join this conversation.
Although it may be a tough undertaking, it seems like you've made the appropriate decision, especially when your loved one's health is at the centre of your concern. @petel, you wrote, "...we need the suit to be able to keep her home." Could you explain what that means or entails? Does your mother have the care she needs, right now at home?
My Mother is home. It's a battle. The people that evaluate her, to see how many hours of respite time she qualifies for are terrible. For instance, after the first 2 evaluations, I decided to sit in on the third. They had my Mother lay in her bed and then try to get up to make her way to the Bathroom. She always gets up out of bed and turns Right, which is the wrong way, so they had someone there to guide her Left. Then, they posted someone at the end of the bed because 99% of the time she takes a Left at the end of the bed, she is supposed to go straight. In short, they guided her the whole way and back. When I got the results of the evaluation, they said she had gotten "better" at negotiating her home and cut her hours! At this time I do 3 overnights. I go to my Mother's house at 9 PM and get relieved at 7 AM. It is draining to say the least because even if she isn't up 5-10 times during the night, you are "on-guard" because she is quiet and you don't want her to fall or something. Money from the lawsuit will help us to hire someone to do the over nights and get help during the day. We do have visiting nurses during the day. I have been doing this for 3 years. The first year, when Dad was home and "with it" , I did all 7 nights by myself. I would help them into bed at 10-ish and leave at 3 or 4 in the morning. Over time my Father could not handle my Mother so my Brother and I have been doing the over nights since. It is very tiring and I should probably be home with my Wife as , we have a new lawyer from Boston but I know from prior experience, in dealing with our former lawyershe has a Mental Illness and should not be left alone. Anyway, we have a new lawyer who is now sending my Mother's docs out to specialists. I was asking if anyone knew of specialists who testify due to the anxiety caused by our former lawyer. From day one, he only wanted to go after the primary care physician. I totally disagreed. Then it came down to crunch time and he said WE needed to find an expert. He supposedly couldn't locate any. My Brother and Sister did a Google search and 50 or better popped up. This was on a Friday. I e-mailed a doctor in Texas who seemed good, Mayo Clinic trained and that is where I got most of my research material on the disease. He called me that night, a Friday night!@ I sent him many of my Mother's docs and a time-line. He, without prompting, said "they (both the ER and the Eye specialist), should have started IV Therapy, IMMEDIATELY, before the diagnosis was confirmed." He is animated in his speaking and I am pleased. I give his contact to our former lawyer, who then supposedly has to check the expert out. Then after about 5-6 weeks of waiting the expert supposedly contacts our former lawyer and says, "we can only go after the primary." The former lawyer tells me this and I am dumbfounded. I don't believe one thing the former lawyer is telling me. I spoke to the expert and there was no way he did a complete 180. That is why we have a new lawyer and why I am anxious and not so trusting. I asked the new lawyer if I could reach out to the expert and ask him about the supposed change in philosophy but was told we will do that, if needed, at another time.