I have esophageal dysmotility, as well. Sometimes meals just take time and patience. Small bites, lots of chewing. I avoid untoasted bread. It gets gummy and hard to swallow. I never use a straw because it propels the liquid too quickly to the back of my mouth, and I rarely drink carbonated drinks. When drinking, I swallow it twice.

I don't chase things down with liquid because it makes me aspirate.

Where does food stop? For me, it can stop at any point from above the upper sphincter to the lower sphincter, and anywhere in between. The rings of cartilage in the throat are supposed to fire in sequence, but mine fire at random, slowing down the process.

Have you seen a speech therapist? They have a number of helpful exercises and good advice.

Jim