@graybeard46 I am 78 and have little ability to become hard, ejaculate, or even develop feelings of sexual desire (well, some to a degree). My wife is a young 72. We had a good sex life for many years, so I did not want her to feel deserted. Every few weeks I will cuddle up, caress her body, kiss her, and, ultimately, find her soft spot and bring her to climax. I feel pretty good about it, and she really enjoys it. Sometimes, good sex isn't always about "having sex" if you get my drift. Sure, I would like to perform as I was did, but that ship has sailed. This is a pretty good alternative.