@memoriestomoments I can't begin to thank you for your post and the link to the COmpassionate Communication. It's so true. and so readable with what we need to remember. I have a husband with MCI, still independent, but very forgetful, and little follow through on anything that requires problem solving. So different from him in the past. Interesting enough, I have a periodontist, who's still practicing, up there in years, and apparently has some dementia. I'm struggling with an infection to an implant, and Thursday's visit to him, with a procedure he had done earlier that didn't work, and now has to be redone over again. Based on the his outburst, and his inabilty to remember, what he had done, let alone read through his notes, now I'm questioning what to do with going back in to have him redo the procedure. I keep remembering the periodontist outburst, and what he said to me, attacking me for what he didn't understand. I used short statements. I tried desperately, to communicate, and couldn't. So I walked out of his office, they schedule an hour comeback, and now I'm left with what to do, who to go to, and how to handle it, since it's obvious he's still working an abbreviated schedule and he's having trouble and his office knows it. Reading your link, gave me clarity, and also in helping me deal with what I'm struggling with at home. Thank you. I love this connect site. and the caregivers and mentors in it.