Hi:
I will share a few tips from a dementia class I just took:
-seek support from others (a no-brainer)
-explore resources (e.g., ADRC)
-attend a Memory Café (maybe only available in larger towns)
-respite/preventative maintenance for you (for the long haul, since this is a marathon not a sprint, do things for yourself over time)
-keep educating yourself about dementia so you can adapt to her behaviors
-move toward acceptance of the changes in your relationship (now you may be more of the mom in the relationship, making important decisions on her behalf)
-be proactive with legal and financial planning
-let go of any guilt, make space for grief (this is hard)
-aim for presence over perfection (you showed up, you are caregiving, you are human)
- develop positive messages for yourself as a boost when there are challenges
- choose grace over guilt

All the best to you, and hugs. 🫂