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How do I add aging issues to a life I have never been happy in?
Aging Well | Last Active: Mar 18 9:31am | Replies (148)Comment receiving replies
I'm gonna be tough here, not going to give a bunch of platitudes. I will be honest, stop feeling sorry for yourself. All of us have good and bad days, all of us at time dislike ourselves. Stop hating yourself! Change your attitude, yes you can, I don't want to hear you can't. As for your teeth implants, don't think of it as a way to improve looks, think of how it will benefit your over all health, because you can now eat a proper meal. Lord above I am 77 and you think at my age my body is beautiful? Nope, but do I let it make my life miserable? Nope, I love life, I love being able to go outside and see all the beauty around me. Get out of your own head and open your heart to others around you. Love yourself as is and stop trying to be perfect, because frankly none of us are.
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@maryje My wife is 78 and her body has changed but I still find her to be the most drop dead gorgeous woman I have seen. Wrinkles, lumps, dents, everything heads south, so what? She is still fabulous. And, of course, the same thing is happening to me! Aging, in my mind, beats the alternative. As far as attitude? Some people can not change. Most will not. We tend to get complacent in our misery but that doesn’t mean everyone has the ability to "brighten up!" I will say that if one wakes every morning with the Eeyore mind set of "oh bother" you’ve already set the daily tone. I suggest wakening with a loud and forceful "maybe today is the day!" Think that thought for a minute. Or two. Try that every day and maybe, hopefully, that thought remains in your mind longer and longer with time. One’s way of thinking can sometimes change. Anyone who has successfully completed military boot camp can vouch for that. ✌️
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There is nothing I hate more than being told to knock it off, get over it, stop feeling sorey for yourself! Do you not think I tell myself that everyday? Do you think I am stupid on top of everything else? I have beat myself up compounding my horrible self image. I would say to you that not everyone can do that and it is not from lack of trying. I know one person who committed suicide and I do not think for one minute that friend of mine did it because they firgot to tell themself to stop feeling sorry for themself. As to getting out of my head, Ibused to volunteer all the time, go to homeless shelters, soup kitchens in Detroit but I am no longer able tobdo that because of GI issues. So I come here to find some relief. No people are not perfect and neither am I so forgive me for my deppression and the inability to just "stop feeling sorry for myself". I will stop posting so as not offend others. I guess forums like this are for people to just post positive, make believe fake stuff, kind of like facebook. Like I said, I will stop posting. I thought I could express how I feel here.