@srobinet I agree with the other girls here, the waiting is brutal and once there is a plan and you feel like you are moving forward things get harder physically but your brain can settle.
I also agree about genetics, when I was diagnosed, the tests they have now weren’t even a thing. They said nope if you don’t have BRAC then it isn’t genetic. Since my mom didn’t have it, they didn’t even test me.
Then later when it came back they tested and found multiple genetic hits including cowden syndrome. Now they know much more than just 22 years ago.
After surgery are you scheduled to have treatment from your medical oncologist?